A couple of weeks ago, Jenny McCarthy said the following at Autism One –
“This is something I touch about every year on – and that’s the Victim Moms vs the Warrior Moms. And you’re both out there, so hopefully you can recognize yourself if you are a Victim Mom after I explain this. Um, when our kid gets diagnosed, obviously I think we all fall into that same thinking of “Oh my god, I’m going to die. Not my kid. What am I going to do?” And there’s this part that takes place – a moment where you have to decide, are you going to take charge? Are you going to give it everything you possibly can to save your kid? And then something surprising happens with a lot of other moms. They – this is all subconsciously, but they fall into this victim role and they like it. It’s almost as if they didn’t get attention in their lives and this – see, I see a lot of moms shaking their heads – see, I’m sure you’ve met them too, you guys – um, they didn’t get attention and now this incredible door opens where all of these people come over and say, “Suzy, oh, Suzy, I’m so sorry, is there anything I can do for you?” There’s all this attention. And they’re looooving it. They’re loving having people feel sorry for them …”
My response is sitting on the editorial desk at Huff Po – hopefully I’ll have a link for you later today.
Edited to add:
I just wrote the following on Diary’s Facebook page and thought it should be here as well.
ALL – I’m home sick today so I had the chance to pop in mid-day (but don’t have the energy to respond to the eighty some-odd comments on my earlier post individually.) Huff Po has not yet published my blog post. Unfortunately, I’m at the mercy of their timing. As soon as they do, I’ll post the link here.
In the meantime, I just wanted to say the following –
PLEASE respect each other and all of our different perspectives in the comments here. To be clear, the only thing that I take issue with in Jenny’s comments from Autism One (as you will see when the Huff Po post is up), is that she is discrediting the choices that other moms make. I refuse to do the same by discrediting HER choices for her son. Please, please – let’s not reinforce the division in this community by reacting to stone throwing by picking up rocks of our own. Thank you, and now I’m going back to bed. xo
Edited AGAIN to add:
The post is finally up. Please click HERE to read it.
I’d be grateful for your comments on Huff Po, but please, please keep the above in mind as you choose the words you use. Thank you!!