My Dear Readers,
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for all of the incredible comments you left in response to yesterday’s post.
I swear I’m not in your homes, nor secretly filming you a la candid camera – or worse, that TLC show, What Not To Wear where they create the ‘Secret Footage’ of people in horrid outfits. Yes, I actually have a deep-seated fear that I’m being secretly taped every time I leave the house in *gasp* sweats.
Again and again, I find that when we begin to talk about the stuff that we typically work feverishly to keep hidden (the stuffed demons, the showering rocks of What We Simply Can Not Do Right Now, the boulders in our lives) that we THINK are so uniquely ours, we find that others are sharing a startlingly similar experience.
While we ARE unique – and heaven knows our children sure are – we speak a common language.
EVERY single time I dive deep, I find that I am NOT alone, that my experience is not nearly as unique as I thought it was, that my fears are not solely mine (except maybe the What Not To Wear one), and that it’s going to be OK.
Thank God there’s always someone there who has made it to the other side and can say, ‘It’s going to be OK.’
And it is. It IS going to be OK. But this time, it might just be up to YOU to make it so.
If yesterday’s letter really, truly spoke to you, I urge you to seek help from a trained professional. If you don’t know where to begin, talk to your doctor, a social worker or a counselor at your child’s school for help getting started. They will lead you in the right direction.
I know it seems laughable to schedule one more appointment into your ludicrously busy life, but think of it this way – one appointment is a hell of a lot less to try to arrange than an entire life with you incapacitated.
One appointment, one hour – that may just be the beginning of giving YOU back to you, to your children, to those you love. You are worth that and so very much more.
Step out of the guilt and the shame. You don’t need them anymore. You never did.
Wishing you all love, strength and joy.