dear time magazine

Dear Time Magazine,

I have not read your now infamous cover article, nor am I linking to it here. Unfortunately, I think it’s fair to assume that it’s unnecessary anyway as my readers likely already know to what I refer.

Truthfully, I’m pretty much loathe to read it at this point.

I have no problem with a respectful discussion of different types of parenting techniques and theories, or about breast feeding’s benefits and our cultural squeamishness about it. That would all be swell – in fact I would welcome it – were opening a respectful dialogue or objectively examining those issues really your intent.

But a respectful discussion never starts with a calculated attempt to shock, nor does it EVER take the tone of a school yard bully asking, “Are you Mom enough?” while looking into the camera as though she’s ready to meet us behind the swing set to prove it.

Dragging mothers into a fight that only exists because the media has decided that it should and baiting us into it (or in this case attempting to bait us into it, thank you very much) by calculatedly striking at our deepest insecurities is deplorable.

So rather than help you prove the notion that controversy – no matter how manufactured it may be – sells, I’d much prefer to follow the example set by this fabulous mom who says, “I am mom enough and so are you.”

Please take a moment to read her post and for the love of God, stop striking matches then screaming, “Fire!” There are plenty of real fires to focus on – for example the one in eighty-eight kids with autism who desperately need compassion, understanding, and support. Yeah, I think I’ll start there.

Best,

Jess

 

12 thoughts on “dear time magazine

  1. You said it all with “But a respectful discussion never starts with a calculated attempt to shock, nor does it EVER take the tone of a school yard bully asking, “Are you Mom enough?” while looking into the camera as though she’s ready to meet us behind the swing set to prove it” ….Love you as always…

  2. I was bullied (my nurses) into breast-feeding for 14 months, then a 2 month “break” and then another 14 months with #2. I often wonder, if I hadnt been so crazed from the entrapped feeling I had with breastfeeding, if I would have been a more relaxed, happy mommy. (Niether of my babes would take a pumped bottle).

    From an article on Care2…

    We’re all doing our best. We’re all “mom enough,” TIME. How about next year you do a celebration of all types of mothers for Mother’s Day (or any day of the year), instead of throwing them under the bus before they’ve even opened their handmade cards and eaten their breakfast in bed?

  3. I haven’t read the TIME article and won’t either. It seems that TIME is acting out – feeling that any attention (even negative) is better than no attention. when my kids act like this I just ignore the bad and they (usually) move on to something else. I think we should all (moms and not) agree to not read that article. maybe TIME will come to its senses and try to get our attention by producing articles worthy of attention and note.

  4. This made the UK news, and most people when asked what they thought of the cover shot were not put up nor down. They interviewed a British mum who was still breast feeding her 4 year old and after proudly stating she thought it was the right thing for her and her daughter she then confessed to doing if in secret – not any more love! You just announced it on national TV…

    • amanda, i wouldn’t be fazed by the cover shot were it not for the bold-faced “Are you Mom enough?” that accompanies it. as i said, i don’t have the least problem with folks breast-feeding into toddlerhood if that’s what’s right for them. what i do have a problem with is the taunting tone with which they’ve captured our attention.

      • Curiously the focus here was on the continuation of breast feeding, maybe (probably not!) the tag line was treated with the contempt it deserves. The flip side of course is perhaps we autism mums should steal it and use it as our own?!!

  5. I couldn’t believe TIME’s audacity when I first heard this. In fact, I didn’t believe it. Talk about your hearbreak…

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