literacy morning

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This morning, we are headed to Brooke’s school for the fourth grade literacy morning. We will gather in the auditorium with the other parents, then split off to our children’s classrooms to play reading games with the kids.

After years of pasting on a smile and struggling through various iterations of these mornings, I’ve come up with the following pledge. For me, but more importantly, for Brooke.

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Hand over heart …

I will do everything in my power to compare my girl only to … my girl.

I will recognize the staggering progress that she has made, and that recognition will be unsullied by … anything.

I will enjoy the time with my child, seeing what she does in school every day … and not worrying about what she doesn’t do.

I will congratulate her for all of her hard work and the wonder of all that she has accomplished because of it.

I will celebrate my incredible child for all that she is and revel in my overwhelming luck in being her Mama.

Amen.

28 thoughts on “literacy morning

  1. I love this!!! I have two children recently diagnosed with Autism and I think sometimes we all get caught up (especially when we are around other kids) in the comparing game. But I love the pledge that you have come up
    With for the relationship with Brooke!! I would also like to adopt a similar pledge! Kudos!! ❤

  2. Love this!! I need to remind myself of this as well, especially after Saturday, when my son went to his first boys only birthday party (a Nerf gun party. I know! What was I thinking?!). One that he abruptly left during his 4th meltdown…..

  3. Amen.
    (And good luck! That’s a tough pledge. Our minds have wanderings of their own sometimes. Be gentle with yourself).

  4. It is so hard not to compare our kids to the others in the classroom. James is in a typical class and a lot of the time he looks like just another kid. However, there are times that I worry because of how far he seems to be behind others in some areas and other times that he looks so far ahead. PEACE

  5. I hope you have a wonderful day, you have the right attitude to just enjoy Brooke…but sometimes it is really hard. xo

  6. No more comparisons-except to your child. Definitely something that I have had to learn. I can’t get stuck on the fact that he is going backwards in some areas, while children that are younger than him are moving forwards. I have to remember to celebrate what he IS doing. Thank you thank you thank you for this reminder.

  7. Amen and amen. I need this in dealing with my son, especially in the case of the teacher who said (within earshot and in front of the whole class) as he was leaving for a doctor’s appointment: “he’s gonna fail.” Hell no not on my watch but I’ll celebrate him for who he is and aspire to the “overwhelming luck” sentiment. I love this. Thank you. ❤

  8. and forgive yourself generously if you do. The pain is raw and undeniable, but jump out of the hole quickly and move on.

  9. I need to print that and take it with me everywhere I go. As my daughter gets older, it’s more apparent-her differences. Some days I’m strong enough to take it in stride, other days it cracks my veneer and hits my heard like a hammer. My younger NT daughter is catching up and passing my older daughter in some skill areas, so it’s getting harder and harder to not let it sink my heart. Thank you, as always-you put my swirling emotions to words perfectly. Good luck, hope it was a fun and enjoyable event for you and Brooke, as hard as it may be!!!

  10. If it’s alright with you, I’d like to copy this and keep it with me at all times and refer to it at all outings – be it the park, birthdays, holidays, “sports” things, IEP, the list goes on and on… needed this. Again, as always, thank you.

  11. Reblogged this on Everything Under the Sun and commented:
    Hand over heart …

    I will do everything in my power to compare my girl only to … my girl.

    I will recognize the staggering progress that she has made, and that recognition will be unsullied by … anything.

    I will enjoy the time with my child, seeing what she does in school every day … and not worrying about what she doesn’t do.

    I will congratulate her for all of her hard work and the wonder of all that she has accomplished because of it.

    I will celebrate my incredible child for all that she is and revel in my overwhelming luck in being her Mama.

    Amen.

  12. I absolutely loved this pledge that I had to reblog it:) It definitely wasn’t easy when I started taking my son to pre-school and the other parents would try to talk to him and would comment…”he is so shy.” Then when he started kindergarten and the children would rush up to me and ask me why he is not talking? I had to get passed all the feelings all of this would conjure up and concentrate on all of his accomplishments. Everything changes in time right?

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