chloe

The following is a guest post from my friend, Chloe. For those who don’t yet know Chloe, she describes herself as “a young adult with autism who is on a mission to advocate about autism from her perspective to educate others.”

She is a young leader for the Autistic Global Initiative, a Co-editor for the Autism eBulletin, and a member of the Ohio Center for Autism and Low Incidence Advisory Board. To see what else she’s up to, follow her on Facebook here.

It’s my honor to hand her the keys to the place.

Autism, it is not always easy. But that is true of life; it’s not always easy. Think about it, how would we learn new things, grow, succeed and achieve if life was always easy. There needs to be that happy medium point of just right, like Goldilocks and the three bears.

If the first way doesn’t work, keep trying, don’t give up. Not succeeding the first time does not by any means make you a failure. You would be more of a failure if you only tried once and gave up.

We all stumble, struggle and fall flat on our face sometimes. It is okay, this is part of life. No one is perfect; this is because we are all human; unique, wonderful, irreplaceable, special in our own way humans. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being able to stand up, brush off, take some deep breaths, remind yourself how awesome you are, find your calm, and get up and be ready to try again.

Trying again isn’t always the easiest thing to do, it can be hard. But even though it may not be the easiest thing to do, it will more than likely be the best decision for you in the long run. Everyone has hard moments and days. This doesn’t make us failures. Not at all, it simply makes us Human. Whether you are Neurotypical, Autistic, no matter the color if your skin, race, gender, religion, orientation or disability these things apply to you.

Sometimes having Autism can cause the hard moments to be intensified and or magnified. At times communication, both finding the words and getting the words out can be difficult. At times or even a lot of the times our sensory systems may get jumbled up and overwhelmed, input hard to take in, let alone process and make sense of it at the very same time.

Anxiety, oh anxiety, it can influence us, impact our decisions and hold us back sometimes. It is one of the big causes of hard. It is one thing, yet it can be so powerful. It can get so BIG, and powerful so very quickly before we even realize it. It can escalate and cause us to go from 0-100 in a matter of seconds.

Social situations can be overwhelming, confusing at times, not always making sense. What most people would usually categorize as a fun, relaxing activity can cause so much stress for those of us with ASD. It takes so much effort.

The way our society and world is set up, we have to try and navigate and learn how to cope and find our way, to the best of our abilities, so that we can be the best possible version of ourself we can be. While remembering perfect isn’t the goal.

So remember this even on the hard days when it can be so frustrating, overwhelming, and anxiety filled. Those moments can and at times will be especially hard. But don’t let the hard discourage you and make you forget the good wonderful moments that are part of the journey.

Celebrate accomplishments and milestones, no matter how big or small they may seem. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are amazing, just the way you are. So, just keep being you, keep learning new things by living life daily. Keep trying your best. Don’t give up. You are learning, growing, and teaching others, you are changing and impacting lives. You are making the world a better place each and everyday, just by being you, the next you you can be. You put smiles on faces, you make people laugh, and cry. You make people proud and happy.

But no matter what, always remember that you are loved. Keep shining bright, the sky is the limit. Reach for the stars and go for your dreams. Live life to the fullest each and everyday. Celebrate, live, laugh, and learn.

Chloe

I want to thank my family, friends, mentors, therapists and teachers for teaching me so much along the way.

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{Image is a photo of Chloe, enjoying a recent trip to the Science Museum}

7 thoughts on “chloe

  1. Chloe this is wonderful. And so well timed- my ten year old son with Aspergers has been having a rough time with anxiety lately. I think reading your words here will help him feel a little less alone. Thank you so much for all you do.

  2. Reblogged this on Autism Mom and commented:
    The Navigator read this and posted a message for Chloe: “I really liked it, it was inspiring and encouraging. Thank you.”

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